Im doing it wrong

On my tablet, I have a few bible apps.  One of them displays a daily verse and today's was in this passage.  

Matthew 5:14-16 NIV “You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. [15] Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. [16] In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven."  

After reading this, I was a little taken back by what it means.  Sure, I've heared it before, I grew up in church, so it's familiar to me.  But I've never thought about what it means.  Firstly, to me, it means that my good deeds have to be so much more than a "normal" good deed that everyone else should take notice.  If I give to the poor as much as I have in the past, people would merely say "cool, good for you," but no one would say that those actions would glorify God.  I can't think of a single thing that I've done that would glorify God.  That's an incredibly good deed, right?   So then, I think for a moment and start wondering what kind of deeds are great deeds.  What did Jesus say to do?  I mean, he already told us to love eachother alot and to forgive eachother.  What else could he say?  

Mark 10:43-45 NIV "Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, [44] and whoever wants to be first must be slave of all. [45] For even the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”  

Whoever wishes to be great in the Kingdom has to serve.  You have to be humble enough to serve others.  Chirst himself came to serve, and I should do the same.  

Matthew 5:44-48 NIV "But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, [45] that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. [46] If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? [47] And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? [48] Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. "

  I am not to only love and care for my family, but for others as well.  Even those that hate me and may even want to do me harm.  I have to be a good enough person to pray for them, and pray sincerely, because I'm supposed to also love them.   I think about all these passages and I look at the way I live and how I treat people and I think, "I'm doing it wrong." My whole attitude that even wins me praise among my peers as a good father or good husband or good employee, none of it is enough.
 I'm doing it wrong.

My Arrogance

  Hello again.  
I'm here, once more, because I believe God is teaching me a lesson.  I'm learning that I have  HUGE problem with arrogance.
I'm fairly talented, and very often, I want others to take notice and I even want the praise.  I want the jobs that come with the talents and I want to get attention.  And I wonder why I'm not there yet.  After all, I'm good at the things I can do. Why can't I have the opportunity to do them?  Why don't I have the room to follow them?  Don't I deserve that?
I feel like I've been slapped down with a resounding "no".  I don't.  Talents and abilities are gifts as well as the attention that comes with them.  Not rights or obligation.  They are given, by God, and are given for a reason.
1 Peter 4:10 says "As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace: ¹¹ whoever speaks, as one who speaks oracles of God; whoever serves, as one who serves by the strength that God supplies—in order that in everything God may be glorified through Jesus Christ. To him belong glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen."and Romans 12 says "³ For by the grace given to me I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith that God has assigned. ⁴ For as in one body we have many members,^[e] and the members do not all have the same function, ⁵ so we, though many, are one body in Christ, and individually members one of another. ⁶ Having gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, let us use them: if prophecy, in proportion to our faith; ⁷ if service, in our serving; the one who teaches, in his teaching; ⁸ the one who exhorts, in his exhortation; the one who contributes, in generosity; the one who leads,^[f] with zeal; the one who does acts of mercy, with cheerfulness."  From these two passages, I get the impression that our gifts, talents, abilities are not given to us to glorify ourselves, but to bring glory to God and to help our brothers and sisters.  Not just brothers and sisters in the church sense, but brothers and sisters in the human sense.  About this particular subject, I'm being arrogant and selfish and I need to fix that.